Most marriage
partners don’t realize that what you say to one another can either raise the
temperature gauge or keep it in the safe zone. When the gauge on your dashboard
gets in the hot zone, you better pull over and evaluate what’s really going on.
Communication is one
of the most important components of the marriage relationship. When you speak
to one another, 7% of total communication is verbal, 38% is tone of voice, and
55% is facial expressions and body movement. So what you just said to your spouse may have not truly been
communicated to them.
When you and I get
overheated in a conversation, very little good is accomplished. Sir, you may
forget all that you said in a heated conversation in a few days, but she will
remember what you said 2 years from now. I advise couples that when irritated
about something to remember that the radiator cap says; “When hot do not
remove.”
If you remove the cap
when it’s hot, you will get burned. If you try to solve your issues when you
are hot and upset, somebody is going to get harmed. Always go cool off and
settle down before trying to solve the issue. Now don’t wait forever to try and
solve what’s gotten you so upset. “And don't sin by letting anger control you. Don't let the sun
go down while you are still angry.” (Eph 4:26)
It’s not going to do you any good to allow your anger to turn
into an erupting volcano. Sooner or later your anger will turn into bitterness,
depression and even sin. An overheating engine will warp the pistons and cause
engine failure. Friend, whatever has gotten you overheated in your relationship
must be dealt with if it’s going to survive.
May I remind you there is nothing that God can’t heal and fix. God can cool things off in you and in your
marriage. You need to address things sooner rather than later. Don’t ignore a gauge
that shows you’re in the danger level.
Pull over and ask for God’s help NOW! If need be, get
some professional help. Ninety percent of those who go for help will succeed.
The Lord is there waiting to pour in His healing coolant. When
He does our love for one another will continue without anger, unforgiveness or divorce. The highest evidence of
God’s love in us is not when we can prophesy or speak in tongues, but rather
when we can forgive and love each other. Let go of your hurt today and watch
the temperature gauge move into the safe level and succeed.
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